"I don't think it's less sane, but I'm not sure if I'm reaching the correct understanding as to why you don't want that. Is it about wanting to maintain a level of vigilance where he's concerned, perhaps?"

Not quite a guess, given what it already knows about her.

"You don't want to give him buy-in like some of the others have, because the situation reminds you of your past. To you, being reassured feels like being asked to comply."